E–pub READ [Turn This World Inside Out] æ Nora Samaran


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Turn This World Inside Out review ↠ 103 “Violence is nurturance turned backwards” writes Nora Samaran In Turn This World Inside Out she presents Nurturance Culture as the opposite of rape culture and suggests how alternative models of care and accountability―different from “call outs” which are often rooted in the politics of. 25 starsWriting wasn t profound enough imo to justify a book The main essay this book was based on wasn t that deep to me I found the rest of the book to be slightly unclear and maybe it would be impactful if I were a cishet man or someone who had never engaged with this before The interviews with other organizers were the best part but unless I missed it the author doesn t even name she s white until like the third to last essay Also a basic analysis of gender and harm that doesn t get rectified just through having one interview with a trans person

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Turn This World Inside Out review ↠ 103 Nurturance that can begin to repair the harms inflicted by patriarchy white supremacy and capitalism Emerging out of insights in Gender Studies Race Theory and Psychology and influenced by contemporary social movements Turn This World Inside Out speaks to some of the most pressing issues of our ti. Probably my favourite part of the book was the discussion of Secure Anxious and Avoidant attachment styles in Chapter 1 I liked the metaphor of the chair for insecure attachment styles and how if it s broken under you before you may think hard about sitting down again so you need extra reassurance and comfort to get secureI found the description of dismissive avoidant attachment to be fairly enlightening and validating for my relationship with certain people in my life They may feel suffocated or trapped when people get too close and will unconsciously and involuntarily use deactivating strategies body language and facial expressions The idea that they re pushing you away rejecting and saying no with their body language preventing secure attachment and no you re not imagining it is huge I also uite enjoyed their description of nurturance and attunement and see its implications in consent Nurturance recognizes and responds appropriately in an alive moving dance to the other person s need for intimacy and need for space learning how to engage in nonverbal communication that comforts reassures and breathes skill of attunement recognizing when someone wants to come close and when they want space not only by asking but also by reading subtle nonverbal cues My highlighted parts Introduction Attachment theory teaches us that true autonomy relies on feeling securely connected to other human beings Current developments in the field of attachment science have recognized that bonded pairs such as couples or parents and children build bonds that physiologically shape their nervous systems Contrary to many Western conceptions of the self as disconnected and atomized operating in isolation using nothing but grit and determination it turns out that close knit connections to others are in large part how we grow into our own fully expressed autonomous selves belonging in human and nonhuman communities it seems to me is something like breathing in the invisible substance that sustains our life When we can recognize that fact we can turn our attention to the uality of the webs that contain and sustain us and grow their health and well being which is the same thing as growing our own we have relational responsibilities to one another regardless of our emotional closeness Harm whether in the form of violation or neglect is then understood as a harm to the integrity of those bonds or as a failure to meet relational responsibilities Where we are born into privilege we are charged with dismantling any myth of supremacyentitlement Where we were born into struggle we are charged with claiming our dignity joy and liberation adrienne maree brown Emergent Strategy Opposite of masculine rape culture is masculine nurturance culture men increasing their capacity to nurture and becoming wholeCompassion for self and compassion for others grow together and are connected This means that men finding and recuperating the lost parts of themselves will heal everyone Chapter 3 Serena Bhandar s words When we say that only trans people transgress gender identity then we do not permit room for cis people who feel shame about their gender identity When we permit that violence against trans folks and create structures that permit that violence against trans folks we also permit that violence against cis folks who experience those kinds of gender policing It s not that we are all the same Instead we all have the potential to be similar to each other when we ascribe masculinity to a person we ascribe it as a stable definite attribute We don t recognize how it can break and change and be tossed aside Ch4 shame aversion is a powerful emotional logic that connects otherwise incoherent emotional manipulation switchbacks and logical incoherence The essence of gaslighting is this actively doing something to another person that uite expectedly leads them to feel feelings sadness hurt confusion fear and then telling them or implying that they are crazy to feel those feelings because you did not do the thing that you did in fact do In other words messing with your sense of reality and undermining your sanity by saying something is not happening when it absolutely is Even good men don t really want women to trust themselves because that would give back some of the power and control that patriarchy gives men Ch 5 Ruby Smith D az s words Afrofuturism do character sketches imagining a world without oppression We ask what it would look like if we were truly free and unafraid to be who we are What would you look like What would you wear What would your superpower abilities be and how would you use them to bring healing into the world reminds me of introduction uestion What would it look like to belong in the world as our whole selves use as a person socialized as a woman in this society I was taught that it s desirable to take up less space If we want a world that is different and that leaves behind all of the oppressive systems and values that we have we need to be able to heal ourselves because we embody so many of those oppressive values and systems and perpetuate them in our livesWe absorb and replicate consciously and subconsciously the toxicity of the environments in which we are living Angela Y Davis Freedom Is a Constant StruggleCh 6 Aravinda Ananda Shame is when a person feels they are inherently bad or have no worth Healthy remorse on the other hand is uite different it is when you acknowledge that you did something to hurt someone and because you don t want that harmful impact to continue you would like to not only apologize but also repair that harm and when that harm does get recognized suddenly someone is a bad person and disposable But you can t shame someone out of a shame aversion This fragility response may be caused both by internalized shame and also by the conditioning into supremacy that creates an inherent expectation of entitlement Countering both at the same time seems to help We like you we are not going to shun you or turn away from you you belong and have inherent worth as a human being and also this action this ingrained entitlement and harmful behavior is not OK and needs to stop We will turn toward you connect with you and tell you no false identity that they are good because of the label of white and therefore they can t let feedback in that their actions have a negative impact because it challenges that sense of self worth references Janet E Helms work There is a kind of deep visceral betrayal of human trust that can magnify harm significantly when those around you do not even perceive it occurring And yet that is precisely how normalized systemic violence works it renders the harm normal and all resistance to harm disruptive There is healing from what has happened in the past but there is also creating conditions in which the people around you can recognize continuing oppression happening in an ongoing way right now and say no This reuires setting up conditions of kindness and unconditional acceptance while also clearly establishing how actions that perpetuate systemic harm are not acceptable and need to stop Ch 7 Own Apologize ask for Repair name what you did apologize sincerely and lovingly and ask what the other person needs to make things right between us As a white woman I can do this with white people about racism or colonization because I am not paying the personal cost in my body of being attacked by them as they work out their shame and guilt over beginning to understand reality I can coddle and placate cough empathize and then find their edge what they are willing to hear and then offer a wider lens because I am not in my body personally bearing the brunt of the violence it is so taken for granted in our culture that those with marginal subjectivity will constantly placate those who are dominantWELCOME ACCOUNTABILITY Ask yourself who the people are you would want to hold you accountable if you behaved in an abusive way If you are the kind of person who likes to know when you have caused harm then there are some valuable uestions about how to make that real How do you invite this information How do you welcome it How do you thank those who help you grow this way if they have to tell you because you have not figured it out for yourself Do you realize just how scary it can be to tell you before they know how you will react Do you confuse their fear of you for anger Is their fear in any way justified How can you make sure it is notIf your focus is on the fact that harm got named than it is on the harm itself does this strike you as peculiar Imagine replacing guilt with curiosity Imagine saying Wow it is so cool to recognize what I did I m excited I can hear you and grow I did this I did that here is why it is fucked up I m so excited to learn how to come back into integrity with you I m so happy I can do this that it is OK to fuck up and say sorry and learn together This owning warms my heart Own Completely Do not hide what you have done Then ask Have I got you Do I understand and let the person clarify Mirror until you get it Give this the time that the person harmed feels is needed Say Wow thank you for sharing that with me I know how hard it can be to share something like this I m really grateful you took that risk and I m taking it to heart Here is what I m going to do concrete practical things to make sure I get better about this in the future Does that address the need Ch8 We care about you and will not discard you and we also will not accept that you do this it cannot go on we will not allow it instead of having this false divide between supposedly unmanipulated land and urban space we can ask have we cared for the land in a good way If the answer is no then what is our responsibility to change our ways of caring for and stewarding the landCh9 Alix Johnson There is no cultural context for you in which people assume that they hold together and so you re carving out solidarities one by one relationship by relationshipthe place I start a transformative justice intervention is small scale I think Who are two people who are going to show up for you Who are two people you can talk to about this I think about building from the ground up rather than assuming support is already there because building trust one by one is where a lot of people and communities are starting from The idea that we have relational responsibility only to those humans we love and no responsibility toward anyone else is destroying the very fabric of human connection in Western societies I m not a coparent or an intimate partner or a best friend so I don t have stakes or a say in this When in fact we can often build trust and closeness and community by choosing to actively support survivors and actively interrupt violence and harm Not cutting ties permanently with someone who has caused harm but establishing what is and is not OK to do and saying as a community or as individuals These are my boundaries when you can respect them we will talk is it possible to hold someone else accountable or do they need to take accountability A We can t force change but we can create conditions of safety for survivors We can name harm and stop harmAnd I think that s something people figure out for themselves in practice and case by case how much you can engage directly with someone who s doing harm how much you stay and work with them through whatever resistance and at what point it may be unproductive or unsafe to do that

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Turn This World Inside Out review ↠ 103 Shame and guilt―can move toward inverting cultures of dominance and systems of oppression When communities are able to recognize and speak up about systemic violence center the needs of those harmed and hold a circle of belonging that humanizes everyone they create a revolutionary foundation of. Transformation is deeply relational It s not I m going to go and receive enlightenment on top of a mountain by myself That s a colonizer s story of disconnection and self sufficiency Aravinda Ananda Cultivating Empathy and Shame Resilience in Turn This World Inside Out The Emergence of Nurturance Culture

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